Struggling with loneliness and depression as a digital nomad

Wherever you go, there you are!

Moving around, changing countries, trying new activities and meeting new people sounds like fun, but is it always?

Even though you are living a life most people dream of and you are giving yourself the freedom of choice and the luxury of travelling, being able to work from a cosy cafe in Paris or an exotic beach in Bali, why are there so many times that  you feel sad, lonely and unfulfilled?

Because, wherever you go, there you are!

It is pretty confusing when you spend all your energy to create the ideal external conditions for yourself to live a fulfilled life but still you don’t feel happy. You try to find out what is wrong and you end up changing the environment again. Maybe you will try South America where people are more open and warm or try moving to Greece where the weather is great and the food is even greater. Still, something is missing. Something important, something fundamental.

You can’t escape yourself. Happiness lies within us! Sure, the environment helps but it will not make you happy and fulfilled.

Unless you discover your real needs, you will constantly fall into the same trap.

Why is it that some people feel happy and at ease spending more time on their own and others crave for social interaction? The answer is not that simple. Our fundamental needs are not the same. Diving into the subconscious mind you will most likely discover that what you have been choosing consciously disagrees with your deeper needs.

If, for example, you think of yourself as a very social person who likes to meet people, try new things and exploring but in your subconscious mind your needs are to be forming strong and meaningful relationships in order to feel safe, then, you have a conflict which brings out these feelings of desperation.

As the subconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious mind, it tends to always win.

You can see it winning when you fail to do what you planned on doing, when you experience panic attacks or psychosomatic symptoms. These are powerful signs that your conscious mind is not aligned with your subconscious mind.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting to constantly try and cover your subconscious needs. These needs were programmed a long time ago. They are registered as needs but they very well may not be at the present moment. ( The subconscious mind doesn’t understand the difference of a memory and the present moment).

What I am suggesting is that, if you feel those symptoms of inner conflict, if you don’t know how to make yourself happy then, it is time to really look deep into yourself and see the program that has been running your life. Look at it carefully and thoroughly. Does it still serve you or is it going against your wishes and values? When you answer this question then it is important for you to know that you can reprogram your mind.

You have the power to be in control of your life and your emotions because..

Wherever you go, there you are!